Something has changed in the dynamics of relationships over the last few years, I'm not altogether sure it's healthy either. When I was 18-19 and seeing a girl, you agreed times, places to meet in advance. Maybe you'd get in from work and there'd be a message written by dear old mum saying could you ring your latest squeeze for what was normally a pretty good reason. Then you'd arrange the next time to see each other and maybe speak a couple of days later.
A couple of my friends keep telling me now about how their partners just don't care anymore... 'Why, what did they do? Cheated? Lied? Caught them spanking the monkey in the bathroom? nope. 'I've texted twice this morning and still no reply!' oh, really that's really erm... bad, I think. Or I didn't get my 'Good Morning Babes, miss you lots ;-) x x x x x x x' text this morning, or a 'Good night sugar pie snuggle bum ;-) x x x x x x x x x x' text last night either... bummer, he's like totally evil isn't he.
But it's more than that, it's an addiction. I've been on nights out sitting in pubs with people reaching for their phone every few minutes and see their eyes light up as "1 Message Received" illuminates their face, then it's frantic high speed texting back. Jesus! we're on a night out here can't they leave you alone for a few hours so you can relax and enjoy yourself? I've resisted the urge too many times now to drop someones mobile into a pint of beer, I'm going to start doing it as of now, be warned.
It seems to me that relationships deteriorate more quickly now because you have instant communication at all times. How many drunken texts have you sent and thought afterwards, shit, I shouldn't have sent that. But you can't take it back once you see "Message Sent". But why bother? Another lad and I at work thought it'd be hilarious to go through someones phone that was left on a desk. I only wanted to change the language to Turkish which is always very funny, but we looked at the inbox too. Here's the incredibly exciting information we found 'Miss you hunny!!!! xx", "What you up to babes? x x x", "Good Morning Sugar! xx", "Ahhh, me too baby! x", "Good Night Sweetie! x x x", "I'm bored sugar, cheer me up... pweeeze! x x" I think there were more messages but at that point I was sick all over the phone so I didn't want to go any further.
Now, I'm not being Mr Totally Grumpy anti-text here, whatever two people feel the need to text each other is a lovely thing. But if you're the sort of person who's heart sinks from seeing just the operator logo on your phone then get some help. I would say certainly don't judge the love and devotion of another person by the number of 'x's at the end of the text, or the number of minutes you waited for a reply (Where were you?? - Having a poo, it took some time and I thought I'd cope without my mobile for a few minutes).
Maybe you should turn up to see them, give them a dirty great kiss and tell them what they mean to you? It's a radical idea, but I live in hope - Message Sent...
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